So here is the deal. I'm use to being alone. Seriously alone. Hubs works a full-time and a part-time job so he doesn't get home till 11ish during the week and then he works on Saturday till around 2 or 3. So I'm use to having my evenings by myself and my Saturdays as my "do what I want time". Well, that hasn't been the case since June and I'm going a little insane.
I told Gene this a couple weeks ago and he suggested that since he had yesterday off that it would be a good time for me to have some time alone since he could do something with the girl. So I stuck it out till around 6 pm yesterday then decided that I need some "time". I just thought I would want an hour or so but I didn't care...it was a little time to myself. So I told Gene what I was going to do and my reaction from him, "I'm sorry if I'm annoying you". NOOOOOOOOO that's not what it had to do with. NOOOOOOOO it's not about you. NOOOOOO I just want TIME TO MYSELF! His response to me then made me feel guilty about alone time. That just pissed me off even more.
I finally went upstairs and not even 10 minutes after being up there my sister comes in. WTF? She comes in to ask me about stuff for a game she wants to play on my computer. Seriously? She kept talking to me and asking me why I wanted some time alone and I was like I just want to decompress. Her response? Isn't that what people do when they die? {um yeah}
So I gave up. I went downstairs and asked Gene why she went upstairs...he tried to stop her, but she said something to him about being my blood so she could go up there. I wound up staying downstairs for at least another hour and then eating. I went back up but I talked to her about it before I did. She has this crazy passive-aggressive thing that she does that makes me a little freaked out. I hate that. I went upstairs and read for a little while and then somehow I zonked out. I only remember Gene getting into bed around midnight. I guess my time alone was a huge fail.
I feel bad wanting time alone. Honestly, I need it for my sanity. I love, love, love having my sister here and spending time with her {and my brother too}. I, however, do need some time to myself every now and then. I shouldn't feel guilty for wanting/needing time alone...
7 brilliant insights:
you should never feel guilty about wanting some time to yourself. especially if that is how you are used to living. i guess some people just don't understand that because they never want to be alone.
(what would jen do)
Nope - everyone needs alone time now & then. It lets you do things YOU want to do without feeling guilty for "ignoring" someone else. I love to read, go through my DVR list or putz on the computer during my alone time. It's nice!
Sometimes, you just need a few minutes to yourself. I feel that way a lot--even with my husband! It's nothing against him, I just enjoy solitude every once in a while. I hope you get a little of that much-needed alone time soon.
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I'm an only child, and I've found I need my alone time waaay more than other people do. Even on vacation with my friends, I just need an hour to BE BY MYSELF!! I totally get where you're coming from.
I agree, you shouldn't feel guilty for wanting and needing time alone sometimes! It's good for the mind!! xoxo
I think it's normal. :) But just wait until you get your little nutter butter...alone time is gone forever! ("mommy is going potty...oh, you want to come? well, okay") I know you'll love it though. Another good place to get away is in your car - they can't get to you there. :)
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